Many Christian people are not really happy deep down inside. Oh, they can put on a good front, and smile and make small talk, but when they are alone and all is quiet there is no peace inside. This kind of person finds it easy to become involved in bickering, quarrels and arguments, especially at home. Is this the way it is suppose to be?
Have you ever noticed when the electricity goes off we say the POWER is off? When that happens we have all kinds of unexpected problems. We can’t take a shower, do a load of wash, or run the dishwasher. We have no water period. Also, most likely, the heating system in our house won’t work without electricity. In the winter this can be a serious problem. All those things that we take for granted every day are suddenly out of bounds for us just because something unexpected happened at the power station and the power went off. We feel helpless!
The POWER can go off in our Christian lives also. When that happens we cannot function right. Too many people today have a powerless and miserable life. Yes, we continue to try to do the right things. Perhaps we get up on Sunday morning and have an argument with our spouse while getting ready for church, and yell at the kids. Then we all pile in the car and go off to church. When we arrive we put on a happy face, and look just fine on the outside. We can participate in the choir and greet each other with a handshake or hug. But, at the same time we might be miserable on the inside. We leave church and again find ourselves in the same old situation quarreling and arguing with others. What has happened? You have lost your power source!
The Holy Spirit is our power source. Do you know that we short-circut the Holy Spirit’s power in our life when we sin? This happens even when we do so called little sins. We sin and it breaks our connection with God. We no longer have fellowship with him. We immediately then revert back to living in our flesh like we did before we were Christians. It would be good if a bell would go off in our heads and alert us to the fact that we have sinned and lost our power source, but it doesn’t work that way. Instead we find ourselves thinking and doing things that are not pleasing to God. We try to accomplish things in our own strength which will not work. This behavior will go on until we realize we are not right with God.
God is holy and He cannot look upon our sin. He tells us in His Word:
“So when you spread out your hands in prayer, I will hide My eyes from you; Yes, even though you multiply prayers, I will not listen. Your hands are covered with blood. (Isaiah 1:15) NASB
“Wash yourselves, make yourselves clean; Remove the evil of your deeds from My sight. Cease to do evil, (Isaiah 1:16) NASB
God doesn’t want us to be powerless Christians. He does not want us to quarrel and argue. God loves families and He wants us to have peaceful, loving homes to bring up our children. He wants us to be blessed with all spiritual blessings. He wants the very best for us. After all He bought us with His own blood when He died on the cross for us. He is invested in us.
When we get into arguments with others the issue is not what we are arguing about. It is about us. We are sinning, and we can’t be happy inside in this state. We are being selfish and prideful. We insist we have to get in that last word. We need to examine ourselves against the scriptures and see if we measure up. Where are we going wrong?
God tells us when we become a Christian a change takes place. We become a new creature in Christ.
Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. (2 Corinthians 5:17) NASB
He has told us to put these old things aside.
But now you also, put them all aside: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive speech from your mouth. (Colossians 3:8)
Do not lie to one another, since you laid aside the old self with its evil practices, (Colossians 3:9)
If you have a short temper and fly off the handle easily something is wrong. We are not to fight and use abusive speech. We are not to get even. Some people I know say “I don’t get mad I just get even!” That is the way of the world. We are not to slander one another. And we are not to lie. We are to practice telling the truth. All of the above things are sin in God’s sight and when we do them we disconnect from our power source, the Holy Spirit.
Some people say they can’t help themselves in these things because they are just made that way. “Oh, I just have a short fuse. My dad was the same way. I come by it naturally.” Well, that may be so, but just because your dad was a sinner doesn’t mean you have to continue in the same path. These are simply excuses. God requires change! And, he has given us the tools to make those changes.
Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its lusts, (Romans 6:12) NASB
We are to be in control and not let sin have it’s way. Before we were Christians this was very difficult because we didn’t have the power in ourselves to do this. But, now we have the Holy Spirit to help us, and we can have victory over sin.
If you are an unhappy Christian on the inside, take time to examine yourself and see if you have unconfessed sin in your life. Confess, repent, and get connected with your power source so you can please God and find true happiness.
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I have read the comments all have left. We all as humans fight this battle every day, some days are better than others. I was saved 5 years ago I did it blindly with what faith I had left in me in the miserable life I was living. Two years into this I was happy but something changed. I am suffering now because I turned from God and tried to do it myself. I don’t get into the banter of different religions, all I know for sure is there is one God the god of Abraham and Moses the Alpha and Omega, my advise is im sure there are different ways and customs to find him, but when you do only you will know. One thing I know for certain is he is good there is no evil in him. We as people choose to either obey or turn from him it Is the choice he gives us. The path of our lives is full of struggles, there may be periods of our lives when things seemed happier but it was a blessing for that time and an illusion. From the moment of our existence even as babys and kids life is a fight and death is the outcome. Only through accepting Christ and his gift from the cross are we cleansed from our sins. I am miserable today because I tried to do it my way again, I am not rich but not poor have a relatively good life by worldly standards but once again was left empty in spirit because I turned from God. I am out of fellowship with him because of my choice.
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Hi Mike, Thank you for your comment. You learned a very important lesson Mike, and that is we cannot do things on our own, but we must yield to the Holy Spirit and allow God to work in and through us. Now you need to repent, ask God to forgive you, and He will. You can then be back in fellowship with Him and enjoy His love and peace once more. I pray you will do that. Please feel free to write to me personally if you wish. In Christ’s love, Bonnie
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Thanks for this post I am a Christain and don’t feel happy I just feel like I’m just here and I’m being forced to be a christain and I’m just being forced I don’t wanna feel like this cause I know I have a free will please reply I really wanna change but something is holding me back I don’t love poeple like I’m suppose to
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Hi Rebecca, No one should feel like they are being forced to be a Christian. Why do you feel this way?
Tell me a little about yourself and about how you became a Christian. I really would like to help you. You can click on the Email Me button and email directly to me.
Thanks for your email and I look forward to hearing back from you real soon. Blessings, Bonnie
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I totally agree with this right not. I’ve become dissatisfied with the Christian faith and have been exploring other options. I totally agree with some of these points.
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Thank you for your comment. Tell me why have you become dissatisfied with the Christian faith? What other options are you exploring? I’d love to talk more with you. Bonnie
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I wish i was a childless virgin, I am already oveweight. You have to get your eyes totally on God and seek him with all your heart or you will never be happy. He cares for me evern though I am divorced, low income not fixed have my daughter and grandson to care for and have no christian fellowship, but when i got my eyes of all that and trusted Him and told Himit diddnt really matter what I had or diddnt have He changed things around for me. What about people being tortured for their faith? God did not promise you a grat life, He promised we would have trouble. stop complaining about being in the front line and start fighting, then you will get fullfillment. Babies, husbands, wives and sex is nothing like you hope it will be. And you may end up with a companion from hell. We are to praise God in all circumstances so look up and give thanks for all your blessings. Your eyes, nose skin hair legs arms your bed your friends etc. Everyone can find one thing to be thankful for.
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You are right we all have something to be thankful for. Sometimes it is hard to see it, but when we get quiet and think about God and his goodness we can thank him for all he has done.
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HI IM A CHRISTIAN WOMAN,
SO UNHAPPY,DONT WANT TO WAKE UP.I KEEP REPENTING FOR BEEN FEELING THIS WAY.I FEEL SO UNATRACTIVE OVER 40,POOR HEALTH,ALONE.
I WAS A CARER ALL MY LIFE.FEEL LOST.
MY HAIR FALLING,JUST FEEL WORTHLESS.
STRUGGLE TO VALUE MYSELF AND HOW GOD CAN LOVE ME.
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I too have struggled with a LOT of unhappiness even as a Christian. What I have learned is that I have needed to reprogram my mind. I was raised in a VERY religious, non-loving home and LEARNED to be self consumed, non-loving, depressed, etc. Once I became a Christian I believe that I expected my whole mind to operate differently; it didn’t. I had to renew my mind constantly. My brain had to put create new neural connections and the process required time, discipline, and reeducation.
I also had food addictions, and poor health (likely all related). I noticed that as I changed my diet, not only has my health improved, but my mood became on a more even keel. I started taking a few nutrional supplements and that too helped me to become more relaxed, more tolerant, less anxiety laden.
I am not suggesting that ALL depression and unhappiness is acquired through wrong thinking or lack of nutrition, but I would bet if more Christians took inventory of what they put into their mouth, how they spend there time (feasting on negative stuff – television; the evening news, violence; negative music) they could find a correlation.
The human brain is hard wired with habits…changing those habits requires effort. I encourage all Christians who feel heaviness to make a through assessment of their health and fitness, and get a more balanced life (spirit, soul, body). Put the mind to work on something that is enjoyable such as a hobby or sport. Read and study new information, eat healthy food and if that does not cause the depression and unhappiness to dissipate, get to a doctor that can test for nutritional issues.
If the problem is of a psychological nature I encourage Christians to read books that will challenge their thinking (how they think, what they think, triggers to thoughts, etc). As the Bible states “as a man THINKS in his heart, so is he”. Prior to the knowledge of human anatomy people believed that the heart operated like the brain. So, one could substitute the word in the text ‘heart’ for ‘brain’ (logical and emotional).
All Christians can study and observe their thinking and resulting behavior. If behavior is bad then the there are thoughts that are producing wrong behavior. Wrong thoughts must be evaluated in light of the scripture, and confessed. And just because a person deals with a wrong thought one time it may reoccur…the brain has to rewire.
So, in summary, my experience tells me that unhappiness generally results from two basic causes, physiological (or chemical) and ones unconscious thinking.
My solution was to become conscious of my thoughts and “cast down vain imaginations (can’t do it, never will happen, poor me, self pity, etc) and take every thought captive (acknowledge it as wrong thinking ,and ask the Lord to correct such thinking by substitution principle of speaking God’s word to self – “I can do all things through Christ…” “His grace is sufficient for me” “He restores my soul”…) to the obedience of Christ. Additionally, I changed my eating habits and also changed how I spent my time. My life has changed for the better and now I can honestly say that I am MUCH happier and finding more and more joy and fulfillment.
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