Many Christian people are not really happy deep down inside. Oh, they can put on a good front, and smile and make small talk, but when they are alone and all is quiet there is no peace inside. This kind of person finds it easy to become involved in bickering, quarrels and arguments, especially at home. Is this the way it is suppose to be?
Have you ever noticed when the electricity goes off we say the POWER is off? When that happens we have all kinds of unexpected problems. We can’t take a shower, do a load of wash, or run the dishwasher. We have no water period. Also, most likely, the heating system in our house won’t work without electricity. In the winter this can be a serious problem. All those things that we take for granted every day are suddenly out of bounds for us just because something unexpected happened at the power station and the power went off. We feel helpless!
The POWER can go off in our Christian lives also. When that happens we cannot function right. Too many people today have a powerless and miserable life. Yes, we continue to try to do the right things. Perhaps we get up on Sunday morning and have an argument with our spouse while getting ready for church, and yell at the kids. Then we all pile in the car and go off to church. When we arrive we put on a happy face, and look just fine on the outside. We can participate in the choir and greet each other with a handshake or hug. But, at the same time we might be miserable on the inside. We leave church and again find ourselves in the same old situation quarreling and arguing with others. What has happened? You have lost your power source!
The Holy Spirit is our power source. Do you know that we short-circut the Holy Spirit’s power in our life when we sin? This happens even when we do so called little sins. We sin and it breaks our connection with God. We no longer have fellowship with him. We immediately then revert back to living in our flesh like we did before we were Christians. It would be good if a bell would go off in our heads and alert us to the fact that we have sinned and lost our power source, but it doesn’t work that way. Instead we find ourselves thinking and doing things that are not pleasing to God. We try to accomplish things in our own strength which will not work. This behavior will go on until we realize we are not right with God.
God is holy and He cannot look upon our sin. He tells us in His Word:
“So when you spread out your hands in prayer, I will hide My eyes from you; Yes, even though you multiply prayers, I will not listen. Your hands are covered with blood. (Isaiah 1:15) NASB
“Wash yourselves, make yourselves clean; Remove the evil of your deeds from My sight. Cease to do evil, (Isaiah 1:16) NASB
God doesn’t want us to be powerless Christians. He does not want us to quarrel and argue. God loves families and He wants us to have peaceful, loving homes to bring up our children. He wants us to be blessed with all spiritual blessings. He wants the very best for us. After all He bought us with His own blood when He died on the cross for us. He is invested in us.
When we get into arguments with others the issue is not what we are arguing about. It is about us. We are sinning, and we can’t be happy inside in this state. We are being selfish and prideful. We insist we have to get in that last word. We need to examine ourselves against the scriptures and see if we measure up. Where are we going wrong?
God tells us when we become a Christian a change takes place. We become a new creature in Christ.
Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. (2 Corinthians 5:17) NASB
He has told us to put these old things aside.
But now you also, put them all aside: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive speech from your mouth. (Colossians 3:8)
Do not lie to one another, since you laid aside the old self with its evil practices, (Colossians 3:9)
If you have a short temper and fly off the handle easily something is wrong. We are not to fight and use abusive speech. We are not to get even. Some people I know say “I don’t get mad I just get even!” That is the way of the world. We are not to slander one another. And we are not to lie. We are to practice telling the truth. All of the above things are sin in God’s sight and when we do them we disconnect from our power source, the Holy Spirit.
Some people say they can’t help themselves in these things because they are just made that way. “Oh, I just have a short fuse. My dad was the same way. I come by it naturally.” Well, that may be so, but just because your dad was a sinner doesn’t mean you have to continue in the same path. These are simply excuses. God requires change! And, he has given us the tools to make those changes.
Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its lusts, (Romans 6:12) NASB
We are to be in control and not let sin have it’s way. Before we were Christians this was very difficult because we didn’t have the power in ourselves to do this. But, now we have the Holy Spirit to help us, and we can have victory over sin.
If you are an unhappy Christian on the inside, take time to examine yourself and see if you have unconfessed sin in your life. Confess, repent, and get connected with your power source so you can please God and find true happiness.
hey ricky i feel the exact same. just read my previous comment. i am a very phisopical person (one who thinks deep and outside the box). it is almost as if we try so hard to be like jesus we lose ourselves in life. its as almost as if the human being cant be completly perfect like we strive to be. thats why i have became somewhat of a hippie. im not saying u have to im just saying, as a hippie i dont take life to extreme seriousness and let free of all my feelings and just let go. i still follow gods word and hide it in my heart but i am still unhappy. i guess we cant ever win can we.
life perspective: “nobody said it was easy, but nobody said it would be this hard”.
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i am a very unhappy christian. i seem to argue with my family alot. (i am a teenager). still me and my family make up but i still feel misrable. i have all the traits a happy christian has like very faithful, loves god and seeks his heart. but i still feel terrible down inside. like i have gotten tons of people to turn to christ recently but when it was all said and done i felt sad and wondered if god is using me as a slave. like he dosent care how i feel, like all he care is that i do a good job getting ppl saved but he dosent care about my feelings. i feel completly lost inside. confused to. like i keep asking myself is god realy real or am i not even living for a pupose. i cry myself to sleep at times for months now and i still feel lost. i still love god and worship him but i feel like my faith and everything is driffting away from him. so please could anyone tell me whats wrong with my life?
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Hi Chris, Thanks for your comment. I hope I can be of some help to you. As I read your post I notice one thing that sticks out, you are basing everything on your feelings. That is a mistake a lot of people make. We need to go by facts not feelings. You see, our feelings can lie to us, they are not reliable. On the other hand facts from the Bible cannot lie to us, because God cannot lie.
It sound like you truly love the Lord and want to serve Him. As far as feeling like he is using you like a slave, well maybe that is a good thing. The Bible teaches that we are to be slaves to Christ. However, it also teaches us that God does care about our feelings because He loves us. He loves us more than any person could. I wrote an article called “Slave to Christ.” You can read it here: https://hatchcreek.com/2008/09/27/slave-to-christ/
You also sound like you are doubting your salvation. If that is true then I would like to refer you to an excellent message that just might give you the answers you are seeking.
http://faithbiblechurchofwarren.wordpress.com/2010/01/11/blessed-assurance-revisited-pt4/
I truly hope that these will be helpful to you and if you would like to email me personally, please feel free to do so. I believe you love the Lord and want to serve Him. Yes, you can be a happy Christian. 🙂
Blessings, Bonnie
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Hi Ricky,
Yes, anxiety and fear about going to hell is a good thing. We should have that kind of anxiety.
Well, I’d ask you to examine yourself to see if you really are a true Christian or not. That is the first step. Please tell me a little about your faith in God. Are you a Christian and how did that come about?
The Bible tells us to be content, and I believe if we are true Christians we will be most of the time. If we do as the Bible teaches us and pray, read and study the Word, obey the Word of God, and love our fellow Christian brothers and sisters.
Jesus wants the best for us, and He wants us to live an enjoyable life. We certainly have not reached perfection yet, but we strive toward that goal and the day we meet Him face to face.
Blessings,
Bonnie
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Hi Ricky,
You know what? Living a Christian life is not without trials and tribulation, that is for sure and the Bible tells us that. But, when we have Christ in our lives, then we can handle the trials that come up. We do not do it in our own strength, but through the power of the Holy Spirit.
John 16:33 LITV I have spoken these things to you that you may have peace in Me. You have distress in the world; but be encouraged, I have overcome the world.
I never thought about a soldier saving another person’s life by jumping into the path of an incoming bullet as suicide. Would it be? I don’t know. I think it would be a huge sacrifice. Jesus took our place in death on the cross and that was not considered suicide. He took the bullet of sin for us. Wouldn’t it be the same?
I do not believe if a true Christian committed suicide that they would go to hell, because I don’t believe a true Christian can lose their salvation. I think it would be very unusual for a true Christian to do that because if they were mature in the faith at all they would know that God is in charge of life and death and not us. But, you’ve given me something more to think about.
Blessings,
Bonnie
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and also, you state that; “Anxiety and fear don’t have to rule.” but what if i have anxiety and fear about going to hell? that could be considered a good thing yes? ok, and in so, i decide to follow the ways of the bible(follow the commandments, and fight against the seven deadly sins), but now that i have chosen to follow the ways of the bible, i do not find my daily life enjoyable at all, i am not happy, what can i do if continue on like this?
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